Arleen Hannich, MA |
Spiritual Facilitator |
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The Divine ConnectionA Collection of Articles by Arleen HannichAHannich@bellsouth.net / (919) 460-3028 / www.ArleenHannich.com |
Why We Don't Feel Our Emotions
In the last issue, we explored the MANY reasons why it is so important to experience our emotions fully. Today, we'll look at some of the reasons why we choose not to feel our emotions. Some of those reasons include:
- You feel your emotions don't match the roles you are playing in life, and so you are afraid to feel them. You fear that because you have these feelings, you are not "good enough." You fear others will judge you.
- You feel your emotions do not match the image you have so painstakingly tried to create, and you are afraid to reveal this aspect of yourself.
- You are too busy. As you set out to perform all the tasks that are required of you, you are afraid to feel your feelings for fear they will delay you, get you off track, or waste valuable time--time that you think is necessary to perform more tasks and activities that support you in your roles and images.
- If you feel your emotions, you fear you may scare those around you; they may not know how to deal with you. It can, in fact, be very uncomfortable for some people when a person openly feels or expresses their "negative" or "difficult" feelings. Many times this behavior can "push buttons" (residue/charges) in the other person, who then responds defensively and/or fearfully. You place this other person's comfort above your own well-being.
- You keep trying to get back to your "real self." You know--the happy, spiritual, kind, easygoing, or (fill in the blank) person that you really are. The human mind wants you to believe you are a constant personality (happy, kind, spiritual, etc.) that lives in a permanent state. Here's an unfortunate news flash for your mind: You are not one constant personality! Your identity is not fixed; it arises and ceases according to life's situations. At any one time, one quality is surfacing in your consciousness, and that is your identity for that time.
- You feel bad or ashamed about "negative" feelings, such as anger and fear, and you judge them. Perhaps as a child you were told it was wrong to feel anger or sadness, so you want to get rid of them or ignore them, so you will be accepted, included, and loved.
- You are afraid you'll manifest something from that place of low vibration.
- You are afraid to feel your emotions, because you fear they will overwhelm you.
- You think you should be able to control your emotions. You are not in control of your emotions! When you experience them fully, however, you are far more in control of your "outward expressions" of your emotions, and your responses are far more appropriate than when you are living in denial.
Regardless of why you refuse to feel your emotions, the price you will pay in the long run is high. You will accumulate residue which leads to:
- charges in your system
- loss of your personal power and creativity
- loss of valuable information and guidance
- decreased access to your more pleasant emotions
- and possibly, dis-ease in your physical body
On the brighter side, the Divine is only too happy to help you feel your emotions fully, so don't feel alone and unsupported. We'll talk more about that in the next issue.
If you can't wait that long and would like more information or help now, please read my free Guide "Feel Your Emotions and Create a Life You Love."
